Memory care. Assisted living. Nursing home. Continuing care retirement community. Skilled Nursing. Independent living. Residential care…the list goes on and on. Overwhelmed by endless options for eldercare communities, lots of us throw up our hands and avoid the topic until it’s absolutely necessary or just choose to muddle through on their own…even those who might be helped by residential care.
Obviously the time for a big change lies somewhere between “sure, mom’s doing well” and “I just don’t know what to do!” But when? How do you know?
Let’s look at how residential care decisions are made. I’d also like to learn about the decisions you’ve had to make early-on regarding future care options.
First off, I want to admit that, in the past, I’ve tended to support people living with symptoms of dementia living at home for as long as possible. To me, that meant someone would remain in her home until she had trouble with “Activities of Daily Life” (also sometimes called ADLs). That’s industry-speak for “things you do everyday”: getting dressed, using the restroom, eating, etc. Once she couldn’t take care of herself, then it’d be time to execute the back-up plan.
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